Confidence is Queen: Why you should have confidence in your own abilities and how to grow it if you don’t

by | Mar 21, 2024 | Confidence, Mindset work

There is one little word holding so many ladies back from achieving so many great things. That word is confidence. That one little word came up time and time again in questions I’ve asked prospective freelance mamas about what is holding them back from getting started in their own freelance businesses. Today I wanted to confront this issue head on and talk about why you should have confidence in your own abilities.


Why you should have confidence in your own abilities

You have done so many things in your life that have brought you to this point. You’ve had jobs, life experiences, and hobbies. You might have gone to university or done other types of training. Or you may have already had your own business.

You know A LOT of stuff. You’ve been doing that stuff and putting those skills into practice for a LONG time. I would even hazard a guess that by now you know more than many people in your industry do. You possibly know more than some of the people you’ve worked for!

Some of you will have years of work experience up your sleeve. Many will have pages and pages of references in your CV from people saying how amazing you are. Some of you might have published articles or books in your area of work. You are freaking awesome at what you do and you need to start believing it!

I feel like so much of the time we focus on all the things that we don’t know that we lose sight of all the things we are good at. The very things that we can offer to the world as a freelancer. You don’t need to know everything, but you do have an amazing set of skills in whatever it is that you do and there is someone out there right now who needs your particular set of skills. There is someone somewhere right now who needs YOUR skills

There is no one on this earth just like you and that, my friend, is why you should have the confidence to step out into the world and share your skills. No other human on earth has exactly the same experiences, knowledge and skills that you have. You have the ability to share those skills with the world and by doing so to help other to solve their problems and improve their lives.

Right now there is someone in this world sitting at their desk wondering where on earth they can find YOU. There are so many reasons why you should have confidence in your own abilities. Have faith in yourself, mama!


How to grow your confidence as a freelance mama

1. Look at your skills

Take some time to sit down and brainstorm your skills, experience and achievements.

Have a look at your CV and write down anything great you have on there. Look at any old reference letters or testimonials you have, and on your LinkedIn page and see what people have endorsed you for. Make a list of all of the jobs you have done in your lifetime. Jot down any certificates, trainings or courses that you have done (including any that you didn’t necessarily get a fancy certificate for (e.g. on online course you did about how to be a social media superstar might not give you a degree, but probably did give you some awesome knowledge and skills).

I know how hard it can be trying to write down how brilliant you are – this is something I’ve struggled myself. If you are struggling to prove to yourself why you should have confidence in your own abilities, go and make a few phone calls to people you have worked with. They will be able to give you some pointers on your areas of brilliance. Even if the only person you feel you can ask is your mum, give her a call! Your mum will no doubt have some great ideas about your wonderful talents (who cares if she’s a little biased).

Once you have all of that information down on paper, I want you to take some time just to sit and look over it. Look at all the wonderful things you have done, your achievements, and the skills that you have. Pretty awesome right? Yes, that’s right…You my friend are pretty awesome.

Now give yourself a pat on the back and move on to putting your awesome self out into the world!


2. Put yourself out there

One of the best ways for you to grow your own confidence is to get out there and take action. Taking action is scary. It means that you have to put yourself outside of your comfort zone and offer your services without knowing if there is anyone who will take you up on your offer. Sometimes they won’t. But sometimes they will. Sometimes they will even actively seek you out and ask you for your help. But you’ll never know until you try it.

If you’re not putting your idea out into the world, you’re committing yourself to failure without ever having tried. This certainly will not help you to grow your confidence. But once you secure your first client and get your first payment, you’ve proven to yourself that you have something to offer that someone will pay for. That in itself will help you to gain the confidence to keep going.

When I got my first big freelance gig my confidence was low. I’d taken a few hits doing some new things to try and earn money that hadn’t worked out. It had also not been long since I’d left my corporate career behind. I wasn’t sure if I had the skills needed to be able to be really helpful to my prospective client and the area of law that she worked in wasn’t one in which I had previously had a lot of experience. But once we started working together, I realised that I could provide my client with a lot of help. I was able to provide my client with a good quality service in an area where she needed help. It was a win-win situation for both of us. But, I would never have known this if I had never tried.

Have a little faith in yourself, my friend. You can do amazing things!

Kellie xx



Kellie Dawson helps mums to launch freelance from home using the skills they already have. Kellie has two little boys aged 9 and 10, and it was her desire to be there for her boys that led her to quit her corporate job and build a work from home business.

If you need more help understanding why you should have confidence in your own abilities, message me Facebook or Instagram.


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